Every person in this world suffers from some sort of tragedy. It doesn’t matter what it is, when something like this happens, it rocks us to our very core. We find it hard to see the light at the end of the dark tunnel. Losing a child is one of the very worst things that someone could go through, and unless you experience it yourself, you could never imagine how it feels. When this happens to someone you know, you try to be empathetic and compassionate. As much as you try to come up with the right words to say, they never seem to come out right. If you’re the person that this is happening to, nothing anyone says could ever take away the pain. The loss you suffer will stay with you for the rest of your life. Sometimes, though, someone reaches out and says the right thing, at the right time. Sometimes, that person is a complete stranger that tries to lifts you up on your darkest day.
Tricia Belstra had to make a trip she never thought she would have to make.
She was at home in Colorado when she heard the horrible news. Her son, Kyle, had passed away.
Tricia immediately got on a plane heading to South Bend, Indiana, to go bury her son.
While she was on the plane, she was obviously visibly upset. After hearing what she was going through, a stranger showed her an incredible act of compassion.
The flight attendant felt her pain and knew he had to say something.
It read: “In 2004, my family lost my older brother. As traumatic as it still is for me, I can’t even pretend to know the pain you feel as a mother. I did, however, watch my mother’s grieving process (a process that will never end).
Firstly, being a mother is about giving birth to new life as a promise to the future. Your mission doesn’t end now – your son’s life is bigger than his death and always will be.
“My mom struggled desperately chasing a far away goal of somehow lessening the pain. As she has realised now, the pain hardly lessens. Don’t expend your energy trying to chase this. Instead, go all out finding opportunities to experience joy. Visit family, get closer to those you’ve lost touch with, travel.
This is your story and you owe it to yourself and your son to make sure that you survive this. Do not pressure yourself.
This world is full of people who do truly care about you, even if it doesn’t feel that way. I won’t stop thinking about you anytime soon or how you’re doing or what you’re up to.
You’ll come out of this a stronger person and I’ll be rooting for you the whole time.”
Showing others a bit of kindness can go a long way. A thoughtful gesture can mean so much.